A Love-Hate Relationship

So again, I’m still pondering the big things that happen in our lives, why they happen & when the heck it will stop! I’ve had a great week….truly, honestly it was a hard week, but I can also say that it has brought me some peace & clarity to my other days that weren’t so great. I’m sure you’re wondering now too, what is this love-hate relationship that this post is titled after…well, it’s a love-hate relationship I have with death & dying. Odd eh? I know….you’ll come to accept me as I am. On one hand, death really sucks. It does! For those of us who have to endure the after effects of someone close dying, it’s something you don’t want to face, let alone feel. Jesus felt the pain of friends dying, listen to this: “When Mary reached the place where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet and said, ‘Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.’ When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. ‘Where have you laid him?’ he asked. ‘Come and see, Lord,’ they replied. Jesus wept.” (John 11:32-35) I know he knows our pain, our tears & the heartache one feels when someone leaves us here… Also, on the same thought, death is so uncertain. “Isaac said, ‘I am now an old man and don’t know the day of my death.'” (Genesis 27:2) Part of me likes to think that God knows I’m having a hard time, and wouldn’t take my Grandma away right now, because it would basically kill me. But really, is that how death works? Can we control it? Can we find a “good time” for someone to die? Isaac knew this wasn’t true, and even Solomon did when he writes…”In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps.” (Proverbs 16:9) We cannot know what God’s plan for us is…when we’ll die or how. Alright, onto the Love part…so this is why I love death: That is when we will be joined together with our Heavenly Father, to eternally praise & worship together as a family of Christ. We will walk alongside the river of life & bask in the light of God’s glory. We will taste the fruits that were unknown to us & rejoice in the blessings God had poured on us during this earthly life. We will experience something not known to man, something so beautiful it is beyond our comprehension! My Grandpa is there, my friend Julie is there, the siblings I’ve never met are there, I believe my other friends & family too shall be there. In a sick & rather twisted way, I know that my Grandma would like to be finished with this torment, the pain and agony of each day passing without holding onto my Grandpa’s hand…I do not want to be selfish & pray for her to stay here for me, because I know she’s in pain….and wants to go. So…it’s a love-hate relationship….while I hate the effects of death here on earth, I know that for those who have put their whole faith & trust in Christ Jesus as their Savior will rejoice the second they have departed us. For that, I say bring it on. (But Christ, I’m trusting in you to be there when it comes….for I will need you.)


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